Archive for June, 2006

The good and the bad

Well the day didn’t go as planned exactly. The normal receptionist lady wasn’t there today for whatever reason so I wasn’t able to make a request for the nurse that I like. I was still hoping that she would see me and grab me, but unfortunately that wasn’t the case and I ended up with a different nurse. However, she did walk by and saw me and stopped by and talked with me for 3 or 4 minutes. I didn’t ask her for her phone number in this but it did reassure me quite a bit that she stopped and talked to me. Other nurses will say hi to me as they pass by, none will actually stop and chat for a few minutes. So it gives me faith that she is interested in. Also I realized I had boxxed myself into a corner. I told her I had nothing going on this weekend, knowing full well this was a lie. I have my daughter this weekend. So I sort of painted myself into a corner where I would almost have to ask her out for the weekend, but I couldn’t and if I didn’t ask her out I’d have to come up with a reason why I didn’t, and honestly I don’t wanna lie to her too much. I just don’t want her to know about my daughter quite yet. I am not afraid of telling her about my daughter, but I think that is something you bring up somewhere in the 2nd th 5th date range. I wanna make sure she is interested before I go there. I don’t want her to look at my health issues AND my daughter, that might be a bit much for someone still deciding whether they wanna give me a chance. Now granted, she may already know about the daughter… I have talked about my daughter before to her co-workers, just not to her. But I am not going to take that chance.

I may go in early next week to see if I can get a number. Then I will have an open weekend next week to set up a date and that would also allow me to wait a day or two before calling her. This plan could end up good. I did at the very least get some reassurances today which may be the most important part.

Big Day

Well tomorrow is the big day. I am going to hopefully ask her for her number tomorrow. I got a few things that I am going to do to gauge interest before I take the final leap.

First I will hopefully get the chance to request her. That should tell her that I probably am interested in her given that she has never hit my veins, or go where I prefer. She should clearly know that i have some sort of interest in her and how she reacts will be a tell hopefully.

Second, when she asks for my birthday when giving me my medicine, I will reply with a “now what’s your birthday?” after I tell her mine. If she doesn’t tell me flat out, she’s probably not interested. If she tells me and/or playfully declines then she may be interested.

Lastly, I’m going to make a point to make strong eye contact with her. I don’t know if I’ve done this in our last two meets. I am pretty sure that I looked into her eyes, but given that I don’t know her eye color, I doubt I did a great job. The last two times I’ve more been paying attention to whether she has a ring on her ring finger and her ears (she has a bunch of piercings which I love). If she is giving me a lot of good eye contact she may also be interested, though I think this one is more subjective.

If those three things look to be positive, then hopefully I gain the guts to ask her for her phone number. I’ve asked my roommate/best friend whether she thinks I should ask out my nurse… and she thinks that I shouldn’t ask out nurses because it is their job to be nice to people and she doesn’t need guys hitting on her while she is doing her job. This is partly true, but then I sit there and wonder if my roommate met someone she really liked at work, they clicked and was very interested in the guy if she wouldn’t want the guy to hit on her and ask her for her phone number. I bet if she was interested, she’d want the guy to ask her. I think the big thing is that she doesn’t want me to get hurt and/or she doesn’t want me to have a girlfriend. I also made a blatant querry on a dating advice website and got the reply that I could ask anyone, any place, any time. I’m not sure if I entirely agree with that but on some level I do agree that maybe it isn’t tha bad to ask my nurse out. I just have to be able to seperate the relationship from the business side of things which may be tricky but a lot less tricky than if I had to see her. (I could just request other nurses.)

We’ll see what happens.